A big part of what is hard about this season in our lives is that we’ve been taught to draw physical lines to compartmentalize our lives. Just think about it — your work life has one address, your home life has another, and there are a plethora of other addresses that can be linked to where you worship, where you heal, or where you celebrate.


The COVID-19 pandemic has narrowed our lives down to a single address and asked us to fit all of ourselves into the same square footage of the place we live in, and we’re not used to this.


I’ve been working for myself for the last six years and this is the first time that I’ve ever had to be at home for this long and in this way. All my hours spent working out of coffeeshops made me good at remote working, but there’s a separate learning curve involved with working from home.


I know I’m not the only one adjusting to this. We’re all trying to navigate our way through new boundaries and new expectations of what “I’m okay” is actually defined by. The one piece of helpful, tactical advice I’ve narrowed in on over the last few weeks is to be intentional about bringing your whole self home.


Take the time to put on paper all the parts of your life that you love partaking in, whether there’s a pandemic or not. Do you like to go to exercise classes? Write it down. Are Sundays your brunch and church days? Write it down. Write down all the social activities you have always enjoyed and all the work commitments that you don’t want to let go of and then in a column to the right next to that list write down what can and can’t be translated into the digital, social distanced reality we’re all living.


There will be some concessions that will need to be made. For instance, group classes in a single room may not be possible right now, but maybe it’s a great time to figure out how to take your favorite classes online with a friend who lives states away and who you maybe wouldn’t have been able to take an exercise class with prior.


Conversations around gratitude and finding silver linings abound during this time and with good measure because we should find ways to seek positivity, but the foundation that allows for that conversation to happen is to make peace with your right now, whatever this may be. Acknowledging where you are, how you may be limited, and ways you can work around those limitations to bring all of yourself home is just one thing that will help make your time in quarantine a bit more manageable.

Vivian Nunez is a NYC-based writer, public speaker, and content creator. She is the founder of Too Damn Young, an online community and resource site for grieving young adults. Vivian writes and creates content that reminds her community that going through hard things, navigating your mental health or your grief, doesn’t disqualify you from having a happy life. Vivian has spoken at the United Nations and has been featured by Instagram, and on platforms like Forbes, Mic, and Well+Good. Vivian also hosts a podcast, What Happened After?.  Follow her on Instagram or visit her online at

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